Vacation means different things to different people
This vacation was a combination of connecting with family and friends, meeting my new grandson for the first time, getting away from the hustle and bustle and exploring what the future holds for me personally.
the drive…
It’s painful. I do not like to drive long distances nearly as much as I did in days gone by, although the trip was good on the way.
Patty and I both were taken in by Sarah McBride’s Audible book
Tomorrow Will Be Different
Sarah’s memoir is pretty incredible and educational on issues related to the LGBTQ struggle for equality. What made it more endearing was her personal story. She is an amazing young woman.
Following the battles in the Tennessee legislature during the trip coincided with the battles Sarah waged in Maryland and nationally, although our struggle in Tennessee has more defensive… this time… Tomorrow Will Be Different
Meeting my new grandson was, without a doubt, the highlight of the trip. Didn’t get to spend as much time as I would have liked, schedules and circumstances being what they were, however I am grateful for the time I had with Lincoln, Jess and Marc.
Had a great time with Heather’s kids at the hotel pool although I was nervous about the noise. Kids will be kids. I’m sure some of the guests were glad to see it end… Me, not so much…
Its interesting how different my children are. Personalities, parenting style, just about every thing about them and their partners is polar opposite, save one, they are the loves of my life.
Meeting Dr. Cecile Ferrando at Cleveland Clinic, to discuss surgical options was time well spent. Patty liked her, which is very good. One thing Dr. Ferrando, did that really impressed me, was her recognition of the excitement this time brings for me and yet for Patty, the struggle it represents. Patty appreciated it too. I could tell.
The first time I ever had surgery it was at the Cleveland Clinic. I recalled for Dr. Ferrando, how impressed I was with Dr. Wright, because he took the time to talk with me and walk me through the options I had and what would happen. I was perfectly at ease with his recommendation and the consequent surgery was a success. I felt even more at ease with Dr. Ferrando.
Dr. Ferrando also said she would be fine doing both surgeries at the same time as she is not the one that does breast augmentation. Another plastic surgeon does that but she said they could schedule surgeries together. Will have to make another trip to Cleveland for that consult but as Dr. Ferrando said, there is no rush and she isn’t going anywhere.
I’m already beginning to formulate what the week of October 7th or November 4th might look like. 6 to 8 weeks of recovery, my anniversary and the holidays are factors to consider.
We talked about the particulars, aftercare, follow up and the like. Having friends and family close by makes it easier.
We also talked, in addition to surgical goals, relationship goals. We didn’t get into a lot of detail but the fact the questions were raised impressed me even more. What will our relationship look like going forward? What are our individual and relationship expectations? As much as tunnel vision and self interest might keep me from dwelling on this question, it is imperative to offer more than cursory consideration.
How to begin that dialogue…
now the real work begins…